ON SCREENING & REFERENCES
Providing me with two solid references is the best and fastest way to make me feel comfortable seeing you. I accept references from independent providers with established web presences— preferably whom you’ve seen in the last six months. If you’re a Preferred 411 member, you can contact me through the site!
If you’ve never spent time with a companion, you can send me your LinkedIn (or a company website where your professional email address is published) alongside an email to my discreet, unpublished email address (available upon request). I may want to kick off our first meeting in public if you’re reference-less.
If you don’t follow screening protocol, we won’t be able to meet. I screen everyone, without exception, in order to remain safe. It is integral to my ability to maintain warmth and presence at our first rendezvous. That said, you’re welcome to contact me with questions and concerns.
If we’ve met, I’m happy to provide a reference for you. There’s no need to ask me first— just send along my email address. I pride myself on responding to reference requests as quickly as is reasonably possible; provider solidarity matters! Please give me a heads up by pointing me to the website of the provider who will be contacting me. For convenience, colleagues can submit reference requests here.
ON LOCATION
Regarding New York: I spend most of my time in New York City. I’m happy to host at a boutique hotel in Manhattan; a $200 deposit is required, on top of my rate, to secure all incall dates. If I’m headed your way and you’re in Manhattan, Brooklyn, or Queens, travel is included in my rate. If you are hosting in the Bronx, Staten Island, or further out of New York City, I’ll request a travel deposit.
I would be thrilled to meet you at your personal residence! An invitation into your domestic world is such a gift to me; it adds special dimensionality to an encounter. That said, if we haven’t met before, I may require additional screening and/or a public meeting before I feel comfortable coming to your home.
If you’re not in New York City, scroll down to ON FLYING ME TO YOU for more information. I don’t tour terribly often, but I treasure the development of ongoing connections in other places.
ON MEETING ETIQUETTE
Ensure that your donation is prepared before we meet in an unsealed, unmarked white envelope. If we’re meeting in private, nonchalantly place it in plain sight within the first five minutes of our time together. Please don’t make me ask for it! Should we be meeting in public, present it discreetly within a book, unlined notebook, or analogous item. I may excuse myself to confirm the amount.
Hygiene: If you’re hosting, please shower within two hours of my arrival. You’re welcome to shower upon arriving at my incall if you’ve been out all day!
On overnights (bookings of ~14 hours), I require eight hours of sleep and hot dandelion tea in the morning. Regarding longer sojourns: I’m an introvert! I’ll be my liveliest, most engaged self if I have a few hours each day to roam on my own.
My wardrobe is fairly curated. As such, I generally don’t accommodate outfit requests. I have a personal investment in fashion and maintain an unfailingly sleek, chic mien. If you are resolute in your vision and it’s compatible with my sense of style, we can work together to execute it at your expense.
ON DUOS & COUPLES
Yes, I’ve got industry friends! Inquire for possibilities. If our rates differ, I’ll ask that we each receive donations matching that of the provider with the higher rate.
Couples: I’d be overjoyed to join you. I’ll need to speak with both of you separately to ensure that all parties are equally enthusiastic before confirming our booking. Add $400.
If our adventure falls under either of the above categories, the minimum duration of our booking will be two hours. Sufficient time to get comfortable is critical to the quality of our experience.
ON DEPOSITS & CANCELLATIONS
A $200 deposit is required for incalls. I have several discreet deposit options. If you must cancel prior to the day of our booking, your deposit will be held and applied toward a rescheduled date. If you cancel on the day of our booking, you forfeit your deposit. Same-day cancellations incur a 30% fee, which must be paid before our next booking is confirmed. In the unlikely event that I have to cancel, your deposit will be promptly paid back in kind.
ON FLYING ME TO YOU
Everybody’s gotta get out of New York City once in a while, and I cherish opportunities to do so. If we’ve met before and you’d like to fly me to you (or with you!), write me about it! I have bespoke rates for multi-day / travel engagements, and my US passport is always at the ready. Please give as much advance notice as you can. Once our dates are confirmed, I’ll request a deposit covering my airfare, all other travel-related expenses, and 50% of the total rate for our time together. I’ll book the tickets myself!
If it is possible / reasonable to get to you via passenger train, keep it in your back pocket that this is my absolute favorite mode of transportation.
ON PREFERENCES & DREAM DATES
Cash is my preferred payment method, but I also accept Cashapp and Venmo.
While I’m an excellent dinner date, I am just as content drinking tea at your kitchen counter, hiking upstate, or cooking a meal together. I’m delighted to stay cozy at home or accompany you out of the city toward quieter realms.
I’m a slow burner, and the erotics of language figure powerfully in my life. As a top-notch listener and conversationalist, my ideal dates begin with dreaming aloud together and end with a certain wonder at having wandered into one another’s arms.
ON APPROACH
I feel strongly that each connection differs and develops according to its own singular, organic logics. You can expect that I will be warm and present; that I will respect your complex, fluid selfhood; and that I will hold space for us to discover anew what moves us.
While I revel in playful power exchange— and am well-versed in various non-traditional practices— my approach to connection prioritizes atmosphere over act. The majority of my engagements are not explicitly kink-focused. However, as our affinity deepens over time, more and more zones of desire may open up between us. You’ll find me to be exceptionally non-judgmental and open to exploration in this regard. If you’d like to discuss kink potentialities prior to our first meeting, screen here before broaching the subject!
ON DISCRETION
The screening information you provide remains confidential forever. What happens between us remains confidential forever. In booking with me, you sustain a corresponding commitment to protecting my privacy.
For those with queries regarding my authenticity, I am Preferred411- and Slixa-verified. While I can’t bear to spend too much time on social media, weekly musings and digital ephemera can be found on my Twitter. Follow me to get a feel for my taste in music, literature, and film (and for the selfies, of course)!
I favor encrypted communication when it’s possible. Contact me via ProtonMail if you’re into that sort of thing.
